Sunday, 16 November 2025

A Word Of Appreciation

Covid prevented many important social gatherings - weddings, funerals, birthdays - and retirement events. I was sad that after 40 years in the same job, serving so many churches and communities as pastor and friend [councillor, school governor etc etc] Bob felt his ministry had sort of fizzled out unnoticed. He didn't get the big send off that most ministers do. I was determined to do something to rectify that. So in June I sent out about 30 emails, to the people and places where we'd been since 1981 when he first became a student pastor, up to the present day. I asked for letters, just acknowledging something about the friendships he had made over the years. I asked people to pass on the request to others. The letters were all to be sent to my friend Wendy [so he would not suspect anything] He had no idea!
I was delighted to receive 50 letters, representing over 80 people. Some I had completely lost touch with, and wondered how they had heard about the secret project. The letters were so appreciative, from pastors he had mentored, people whose marriages he'd conducted, or families who appreciated his input when they were bereaved, college staff, those in the community who had benefitted from his contribution to the well being of the area...

I collected the letters and took them secretly to a friends, where I printed off Bible verses and favourite hymns too. And on the evening before his birthday, after our special meal together, I presented it. We were both really moved by the kind words we read together. I am not posting any of those here - they are his letters and very personal. Just a few photos


But the day after his birthday, a letter came from Rosie. This is going to be added at the back of the book, after these final photographs.

Bob, your ministry certainly has not fizzled out unnoticed. In retirement, you are still doing amazing things here in Norfolk, and with your family. We love you so much - cooking pancakes and bbqs, craftsman, doing silly voices and telling great stories, the best grandad, dad, husband...

That's definitely the end of the 70th birthday celebrations!





32 comments:

  1. What a lovely gift and Rosie's letter is the best!

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  2. Such a brilliant idea and responded to with love and sincerity. Well done you. Jill x

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  3. You were the loving and thoughtful catalyst that made it all happen. A very lovely thing to have done. You and Bob make a great team!

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  4. Covid robbed us all in so many ways. It's wonderful that so many people got to finally tell Bob how they feel about him.

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  5. That is so wonderful. Rosie's letter says it all what a lovely girl she is. Regards Sue H

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  6. That is all so lovely and so thoughtful. Rosie's letter moved me to tears, what a wonderful way to complete the book. ❤️

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  7. What a wonderful gift and it was such a good idea that you had. Thanks for sharing the photos. We missed our Golden Wedding celebrations in December 2021 as Covid had caused us to be locked down again over Christmas. We were happy to be safe and well together at that time and e Ery day since. Catriona

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    1. 💚so glad you are still able to celebrate togetherness daily - even if the planned party never happened

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  8. I think I forgot to put my name on a comment I made about 2 hours ago :(
    Sorry. Charmaine

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  9. That's brilliant! So many things went unmarked during the pandemic so finding an alternative way of marking a rich and varied ministry (which is on going) is wonderful. Blessings to you both.

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  10. What a truly lovely thing to organise Ang. Bob must have so surprised and delighted. Rosie's letter is equally special. This post warned my heart. Carole R.

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  11. Angela, this is absolutely so special. What a gift you gave him!

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  12. Bob will have so many memories as he reads through the appreciative letters. Such a lovely idea.

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  13. You're certainly a loving partner! I'm glad he finally got some acknowledgement.

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  14. A very thoughtful gift from a loving spouse. I’m sure it means a lot to Bob. I am grateful for the carers & workers who were so diligent through that part of the Covid era. DL

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  15. Oh that was so lovely, what a gorgeous thing for Bob. A real labour of live.

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  16. What a beautiful and thoughtful gift and Rosie's letter is the icing on the cake. We have done Belper Food Fair today, we even got sunshine. It was heaving, lots of lovely stalls, street entertainers, dogs dressed up as Father Christmas and the most beautiful Roast Turkey cobs. Xx

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    1. Roast Turkey Cobs sound fabulous 🩷

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